Before I head into a blog post that I've mulled over in my mind for quite some time, let me mention that TODAY Ian is 23 months old which means in ONE month, he will be TWO! Oh my goodness! Seriously?

Parenting, well, let's just call it a challenge. A huge responsibility. A task with so many factors and no one formula to make it right. And even if you did everything right, which you won't, then the end result can be completely unpredictable. Good parenting is not for the light of heart! And it doesn't go without a fair bit of praying, OK, sometimes begging for peace, wisdom, patience, a good night's sleep...
I am no expert on parenting. And I'm not really reading up on the subject, either. There are theories and practices that you hear about... like the M&M trick for potty training or using a sticker chart as a reward system for good behavior, etc. So, sure, I
hear things. So, the following discoveries I've made while trying to parent my toddler are not novel and can probably be found in a book somewhere. However, I happened upon them by accident. By experimenting. And I offer these as "tips" to other parents who may or may not need them.
It should go without saying that toddlers are generally needy and irrational creatures with a budding sense of independence. But we should give them a little more credit, I think.
First of all, I have found that if I explain things to Ian–like why we are not eating a snack because we are waiting for Daddy to get home for dinner or that we already watched our movie today, so we will have to wait until tomorrow– then he seems to accept his circumstances more readily. Even if I don't think he'll understand what I'm saying, if I calmly explain while trying to make eye contact with him, it really helps to ward off a tantrum!
Eye contact! A while back, we started saying, "Look at me," when giving Ian instructions, and he follows them so much better. Now, just recently he's started intentionally looking away and avoiding our gaze because he knows what comes next. So, yes one triumph may lead to another quest.
Counting has become our new best friend. Ian is learning his numbers and can attribute them to things like toys, food, and the number of times we do something. In order to put a cap on certain activities he likes, for example, being thrown up in the air by daddy, we say "OK, three times... one, two, three. Alright, all done." And he walks away perfectly content. Otherwise, he seems to think the fun can last indefinitely, and he balks loudly when the activity stops.
In summary of these last few observations, Ian functions much better when he knows what to expect. As unpredictable as toddlers can be, they really like predictability!
One other thing that comes to mind... eating. Ian is a picky eater and will eat one thing one day and refuse it the next. Not only are we creative in
what we feed him, we have to figure out
how to feed him. Some strategies include: one bite for you, one bite for me or "Big bite for a big boy!" Tonight at dinner, we happened upon a gem, and I sure hope it works tomorrow.
Ian decided a few days ago that he didn't want to eat his chicken. Well, for a man who eats little meat, this is a setback. Yesterday we tried bribing him with another favorite food. "Eat a bite of chicken, and we'll give you a blueberry." Well, this only seemed to upset him further. Tonight Ian had a toy dinosaur at dinner. Toys usually don't join us at the table, but we let this one slide... and boy, am I glad we did. We tried to emphasize to Ian that dinosaurs eat meat, so he should, too. This turned into a "feed the dinosaur" our chicken, and then the dinosaur "shared" his food with Ian. It worked like a charm. Ian (and the dinosaur) finished all his chicken!
I don't give myself any pats on the back for these little parenting victories. Because I well know things may change tomorrow. I'm just amazed at what comes to mind sometimes, what ends up working, and how our relationship grows as we learn to communicate with one another. This must be where that prayer comes in, because I know I couldn't figure this out on my own.
So, if you made it to the end of this very long post, then you deserve another cute pic of my boy!